Single in This Pandemic? 6 Ways You Can Still Move Your Love Life Forward
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Maybe you began this year with visions of finally creating the love life you always dreamed about.
Maybe you began this year with visions of finally creating the love life you always dreamed about.
You told yourself: “This is the year I’m going to meet my person.” But then this year happened, and it made dating even more complicated, more exhausting, and more futile than it seemed to be already.
And now you sit here, at the end of another year, with this feeling in the pit of your stomach. A feeling of frustration, resentment, and even panic. “I’ve lost an entire year of progress in my love life because of this pandemic.”
In this week’s new video, I’m going to give you a blueprint for what to do to still move your love life forward, even while this marathon we’re on continues.
Time is too precious to waste. There are so many ways to still move forward. You just need the right plan…
We in this community aren’t just survivors, we are adapters. So let’s do what we do best and make this situation work for us. In the video, I show you how.
Love you, friend.
Listen to these 6 Ways You Can Still Move Your Love Life Forward
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right now in this pandemic
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making you dismal is it lagubrious
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lacrimos how are you it’s a time
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i think we’ve all become a little
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of and there’s a lot of people in fact
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amy sent a comment she put a comment on
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our last video about dealing with
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depression and chronic anxiety and so on
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being single in a pandemic makes me sad
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there are so few social opportunities
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it feels like forever i want to deal
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with two parts of what you said amy
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the first one it feels like forever the
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is that we know now that there is an end
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it seems as though within a year of
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we will be out of this situation because
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a decent proportion of the world will be
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able to get vaccinated and life will
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return to some semblance of
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normal so that’s the first part the
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few social opportunities now
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i get that part but i would also say
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that the mindset i’m adopting right now
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is that this isn’t going to go on for
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so it’s like someone told me hey matt in
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a few weeks i realize it’s a
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more than like a few months or half a
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but it’s like someone said to me matt in
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a few weeks you’re going on vacation
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and then i go oh [ __ ] there’s so many
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things i need to do before i go on this
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i need to write that blog post i need to
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make those three videos that are going
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to allow me to go away i need to do this
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manage my team whatever i suddenly would
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think of all of the things i need to do
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in order to enjoy that vacation
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well i ask you now what are the things
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right now this month in the next six
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months that will allow you to enjoy the
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that’s coming whatever that vacation
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metaphorically so here are six things
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that i think represent a kind of
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homework to be doing right now i don’t
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like that word it has a negative
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progress you can make right now so that
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when it comes and you can still make
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progress in your love life
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in the meantime number one build
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relationships that you will be
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thankful for when social events return
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meeting a person at a party
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takes one minute having the friends that
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invite you to the party in the first
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takes a little longer so build those
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relationships now i know that we sort of
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did this in the beginning of the
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pandemic what did we all do we all
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jumped on house party didn’t we and that
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lasted for about 10 minutes before we
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all got bored of it and thought
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this is all for this pops up i’m being
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called while i’m in the bath
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we did this at the beginning of the
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pandemic and then we sort of
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realized we were sprinting in what was a
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the end of that race is coming up or at
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end point and therefore it will serve us
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to invest in those relationships right
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now i don’t mean just selfishly we
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should of course invest because we like
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those people and we want to give to them
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but investing in those relationships
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right now is going to have
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real payoff when it comes to things
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returning to normal you’ll be
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thankful for your relationships being in
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a good place six months from now because
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of the work you did on them
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today number two assess the
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responsibilities and commitments that
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that would get in the way of your love
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for example at some point would like
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to go on tour again but i know
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that one of the things that stops me
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going on tour is when there are creative
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projects that i need to get done because
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once i start touring traveling around
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being on stage doing all of that
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it will be very hard for me to sit down
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and do the deep creative work
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on things that that are enduring pieces
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of work for me you will have your
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in your life you might not be going on
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tour but you might have a time when
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you want to spend more time socializing
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to travel where you would like to go to
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events where you’d like to
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have more balance in your life and just
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more balance is possible on a macro
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the world has opened up it doesn’t mean
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that more balance is possible for you on
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if you haven’t handled certain
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commitments and responsibilities that
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and even in normal times stop you from
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and investing in your social life or in
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your leisure time so ask yourself right
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you know your love life is not just a
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meeting someone issue it’s also a
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time management issue ask yourself am i
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solving the time management issue right
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so that when balance is possible i my
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life is actually in a position to take
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number three become a better
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now so that it benefits your dates
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becoming a better conversationalist is
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something we get better at by practicing
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but it’s also something we get better at
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living a richer life by having more
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opinions by knowing about different
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if we read right now if we listen to
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if we develop new interests of our own
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and live a rich life right now
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we’re going to have more to talk about
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on those dates we don’t want to get on a
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date three months from now or two months
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and find ourselves with nothing to talk
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about because we haven’t done anything
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can do things in this time that feed our
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interesting person and by the way simply
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watching the news and having opinions on
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political matters right now
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doesn’t count that’s going to get old
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really quickly at some point we need to
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transcend that to more interesting
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create more loves in your life
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i believe that if we have more loves in
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life we will have a better love life
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that means having hobbies that you
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losing yourself in a project or a
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in some way consumes you that feeds your
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if you do that you will be in a much
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better position in your love life
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someone you’ll always have something
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than wait for a text back from that
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the thing that has us anxiously waiting
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for someone to respond to us do they
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like me what do they think of me
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is not having enough that fulfills us in
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life we don’t have enough purpose so
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this is the time to build
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loves in your life so that you’re not
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overly reliant on the love
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of your life number five get in shape
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not for anybody else but for you you
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that there’s a shape that when you’re in
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most confident you when you’re on a date
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are you in that shape right now if
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you’re not this is a wonderful time to
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and get the body you want so that when
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feel awesome number six get your house
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or your apartment love life ready
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here’s the test if i said to you that
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the love of your life was gonna show up
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at your door for a cup of tea
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would you [ __ ] your pants
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if you would there’s another thing to do
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before that happens look it’s really
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convenient in our love lives
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to suggest that the only problem we have
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met the right person yet that makes it
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simple it makes it very literal and it
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always allows us to simply blame the
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i just haven’t met them yet now that’s
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on one level it’s not that that’s not
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valid it’s just that it’s not the whole
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if it was dating apps would solve the
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everybody all the time dating apps
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solve one part of the love life problem
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but here’s how we have to look at it
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is a fixed moment in time
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what we need to work on and can work on
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right now is the lifestyle
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that leads us to that opportunity
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because we’re living this
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rich and full life that consistently
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brings us into contact with other people
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we can work on the skills that mean when
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present ourselves in a charismatic and
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we have things to say and we can work on
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the personality and the inner confidence
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meeting someone leads to keeping someone
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because of all of the work we’ve done on
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to present a beautiful life that we can
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share with that person that is abundant
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and not reliant on that person
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all of these things are things that i do
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on the virtual retreat which is designed
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to work on all of the oblique things
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that create an extraordinary quality of
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and on the inside in terms of our
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emotions and one of the things that i’m
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most proud of about the virtual retreat
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it’s not about finding someone so you
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it’s about being happy it’s about
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creating an extraordinary
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and fulfilled life so if you want to
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massive progress in your life right now
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in all of the ways that you can
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i implore you to sign up to the virtual
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retreat that is coming up in
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march we are running it for the second
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time we just ran it a few weeks ago it
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was a huge success we’re doing it again
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in march from the 19th to the 21st
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and you my friend are invited to come
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and join us for three days of coaching
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immersion for your entire life not just
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if you want to find out more go to this
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speak to one of my team ask any question

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