Becoming Life Partners [Video]

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By Beleaf in Fatherhood

This is Beleaf In Fatherhood Good Father Son Episode 1.

Becoming Life Partners

We’ve been celebrating love lately because we know it is a solution to many of the world’s problems. You saw it in The Love Collection, but what you haven’t seen is the way it has been working in our personal lives. Yvette’s love has changed me in many ways, but the biggest change has been in who I am as a father.

We all have relationships with our fathers, some of it good, some of it bad, but what does it mean to be a good father? I have struggled with this so much, and I’ve realized that becoming a good father is just that; becoming. It is working every day to know your children and yourself a little better than you did the day before. It’s nurturing as fiercely as you protect.

It’s learning and unlearning, doing your best, and sometimes falling short. It’s knowing your limits as much as it is pushing them. Sometimes it’s saying yes when you want to say no, and other times it’s saying no when you want to say yes. It’s a skill I’m refining over and over again as my and my family’s needs change. A huge part of becoming a good father is love. Not just the love you have for your children, but the love your spouse has for you.

This next chapter in Beleaf in Fatherhood is called The Good Father Season, and we can’t wait to laugh with you, cry with you, and share with you each moment of triumph, discomfort, exploration, and discovery we’ve experienced in this season of growth, and see how you’ll grow, too. This is my journey to becoming a good father, and my children are my teachers.

Transcript provided by YouTube:

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in the name of the holy spirit you may

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hello hello hello look at me i’ve been

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fresh i’ve been walking with my savior

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yes i’m trying to do my best guess i’m

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just a bag of bombs trying to shake up

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when you see me never stress when you

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see me see me see me you say

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ten years ago i made promises i wasn’t

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i could keep to a woman i thought i knew

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how did i even know i was making the

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i mean how did she know she was making

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you’ll find out that i didn’t have much

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so many people see where we are now and

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want the instagram version

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but in order to get that you have to

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we started from struggle my hope is that

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love god and bless the world and i would

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and a good father but who you choose to

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affects what you will become

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i don’t know what i want to do i just

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i want to go fast with you i want to go

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i want to get high with you i want to

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i want to buy you some clothes but i’d

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i want to wake up in the morning and i

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i want you to see me on stage and i want

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i want our kids to see black love and

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i’d rather not be their example rather

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i purchased her engagement ring from a

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that i had to put on layaway

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she’s not wearing that ring today

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but to say i knew i was making the right

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10 years ago i would be lying to you

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if we go back like way back

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i know one thing’s for sure she is not

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get on my knees and ask heaven father oh

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to be with a flawed individual i’m gonna

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give thousands attempts to make you

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happy for the rest of my life

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i listened to my father-in-law speak

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about me as a man the night that i

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to my now wife i want to say that this

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we kind of saw the precipitation coming

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a little ways back and uh

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uh along the way he has been a class

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uh guy from the first day that i met him

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at the men’s warehouse for though you

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i was going in to buy a couple of suits

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he was working in the men’s warehouse at

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and i brought a report back to his dad

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that he had a fine son and i didn’t know

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reporting to my soon-to-be uh

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daughter’s father-in-law i never knew

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but my wife taught me that i hope to

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teach the same thing to my children

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because i know that family is foundation

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this is my journey to becoming a good

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father and these are my teachers

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grace and peace every species i’ve been

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on the quest and i’ve been trying to

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write my wrongs until ain’t none of them

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there’s nothing new that’s under the sun

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and some of them seem a mess so when you

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see the son of a gun there’s really no

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every man on the mission even if he

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don’t know we’re going never thought in

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life i’d end up back in california

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