People Skills

7 Powerful People Skills To Make Your Voice Heard

Lifestyle Videos

Vienna’s Secret is supported by its readers. If you purchase through any link on the site, we may earn a commission. Learn more

7 techniques I use time and time again to make an impact on whoever I’m speaking to and create new opportunities in my life.

I’m guessing you don’t just follow my work for love life advice…

Unless you discovered my content yesterday, you will have realized by now that the communication skills I teach have massive practical applications for your business relationships, your ability to network, your ability to persuade, to captivate, and to navigate challenging conversations in every part of life.

I’ve not just used these skills in my own love life. They have been the fundamental people skills I have used to create every opportunity I’ve ever had and get to where I am today.

And I know that in 2021 you have goals outside of your love life that are deeply important to you. I want to help you achieve them.

This week’s video is going to show you 7 techniques I use time and time again to make an impact on whoever I’m speaking to and create new opportunities in my life.

There is so much content packed into this video, it shouldn’t be free. But it is. So please take the time to come focus with me for a few minutes and take some notes. I also have a value-packed surprise at the end for you (also free!).

See you there!

7 Powerful People Skills

Transcript provided by YouTube:

00:00

i’ve always felt that when it came to

00:03

there are two major things that we can

00:07

one is how hard we work and the other

00:11

is how much of an impression we make

00:14

on other people i’ll allow this video to

00:16

assume that you’re already working hard

00:18

but let’s talk about the making and

00:22

i want to talk about seven things that

00:24

we can all do to have more

00:26

influence better persuasion more respect

00:30

make more of a lasting impression on the

00:34

and have conversations with

00:37

number one silence is a virtue

00:41

we should all master the art of not

00:44

when we don’t have anything to say

00:48

so often especially in business meetings

00:49

people speak for the sake of filling

00:52

air time it’s a vanity play it’s a

00:56

discomfort with silence with being seen

01:00

be speaking but we must resist that

01:05

wait for a moment when we can actually

01:07

say something that’s going to make an

01:11

number two fight the urge to interrupt

01:15

if the previous point was about not

01:18

speaking when you don’t have something

01:21

this one is about not interrupting when

01:24

do have something to say we’ve all felt

01:26

that moment where someone is saying

01:29

and we we feel this unbelievably

01:32

urge to slice their sentence in half

01:36

as we jump in to demonstrate our

01:40

look how insightful i am look how

01:43

but they don’t care because they’re too

01:45

busy being resentful or frustrated that

01:48

get to finish you’ve essentially

01:56

do not confuse having something to say

01:59

being the right moment to say it

02:03

number three attack with humility

02:07

one of the greatest things you can say

02:08

when you disagree with someone’s

02:10

opinions or their plan is

02:13

okay i’m gonna lay out my argument and

02:16

you tell me why i’m wrong

02:18

this has such humility because you’re

02:21

first engineering the space for them to

02:25

call you out afterwards so now you’re

02:27

going to get their full attention

02:29

you’ve made space for them to disagree

02:31

with you when you’re finished

02:33

but there’s also humility because it’s

02:34

almost assuming a kind of naivete i’m

02:38

tell you all of the things i think are

02:41

and then you can tell me why i’m wrong

02:44

so and this is particularly effective by

02:47

the way if you’re ever in conversation

02:49

people who are experts in an area that

02:51

you’re not you could be in a company

02:54

hire website designers or coders or

02:56

someone on a project that

02:58

you don’t understand the ins and outs of

03:00

because they’re the expert

03:01

then you feel a bit insecure how do i

03:03

call someone out on something how do i

03:05

tell them that i think this project’s

03:06

going to take too long or is too

03:07

expensive or i don’t like the plan

03:09

when they’re the expert and i’m not this

03:11

sentence allows you to do that

03:13

i’m going to lay out my opinion and you

03:17

there’s humility but it also allows you

03:19

to go on the full offensive

03:21

on their proposal number four

03:25

don’t be a know-it-all if someone asks

03:28

you a question that you don’t know the

03:30

simply say i’m not sure about that or

03:34

or i need to think about that i want to

03:37

i want to go away and consider that and

03:40

when i’m on stage the thing that gives

03:41

me ultimate confidence is not that i

03:44

is that i’m prepared to not know

03:47

when someone asks me a question in front

03:49

of a thousand people and i don’t know

03:52

always willing to default to i need to

03:55

think about that and come back to you

03:57

number five let your arguments weighed

04:01

before you do and when i say you

04:04

i mean you personally with all of your

04:08

with with all of your emotion sometimes

04:12

when we disagree with something someone

04:14

we immediately jump in and say well i

04:18

but the truth is people may not

04:20

necessarily want to know what you

04:22

think in a business context some of our

04:25

job is to add value to the room

04:27

by putting forward interesting arguments

04:30

to put forward the other side but not to

04:33

personal bias so one of the things you

04:35

can say when you disagree with something

04:37

in the room or you think a point needs

04:39

to be added maybe you flat out disagree

04:41

with something that’s fine

04:42

but you can always start with i think

04:44

there’s a couple of things worth

04:47

that line allows everyone to be open to

04:49

what you’re about to say

04:50

because you haven’t made anyone wrong

04:53

if harry if i came to a business meeting

04:56

with the creative team and i was like

04:59

i want to title a new video people who

05:02

like the movie love actually

05:04

are trash it’s divisive

05:07

it’s right now you may think

05:11

we definitely shouldn’t do that matt you

05:14

for even proposing a title like that i’m

05:18

you’re calling me a well you are

05:22

and i am right but let’s say

05:26

you wanted to know that i’m a

05:30

but not say that i’m a but still

05:35

you could say matt i think there’s a

05:38

couple of things worth considering

05:41

about that one being that it’s possible

05:43

it could offend some of our audience

05:46

now you could also add to that we may of

05:51

we don’t mind if this particular video

05:53

offends some of our audience and that

05:55

it’s worth doing anyway but i did want

05:58

that’s possible and maybe even likely

06:01

now everyone’s listening the people that

06:03

think we should make that video and call

06:05

it that and the people that think we

06:07

shouldn’t because the argument was made

06:09

that doesn’t invest all of harry’s

06:13

into it as a follow-on from that point

06:17

is argue with the argument not

06:20

with the person when someone says

06:22

something we don’t like

06:24

instead of saying you’re wrong we can

06:29

here’s my issue with that now when we

06:32

here’s my issue with that

06:35

we’re allowing it to be that not

06:39

them and there’s a huge difference i

06:41

have been in so many debates with people

06:43

over subjects that are very dear to them

06:46

where ordinarily they may be inflamed

06:49

offended by something someone like me

06:52

would say in that moment but they’re not

06:54

because i make it about the argument not

06:57

here’s my issue with that conclusion

07:00

here’s my issue with that point of view

07:03

i’m allowing them to have some distance

07:07

even if ordinarily they would see them

07:11

thing this is something that’s become

07:13

increasingly rare in our world of course

07:17

having become the norm when people are

07:19

going after someone’s argument they

07:22

the person directly and that’s why very

07:25

is made of course because there’s no

07:27

space for people to then be distanced

07:30

in order to agree with you i have to

07:34

my own ego and if your arguments

07:37

if the way that you speak to people

07:39

right now requires people to dismantle

07:42

their own ego in order to agree with you

07:45

people are not going to agree with you

07:48

if you make their argument your opponent

07:51

and make them the person your ally

07:54

you will gain many friends and win many

07:59

and lastly number seven don’t oversell

08:02

your point we’ve all had that moment

08:05

we’ve made an interesting point to

08:07

somebody or something said something

08:09

particularly insightful and we feel that

08:11

click we feel that moment where they nod

08:17

the most intelligent person in the room

08:20

they do think i’m wonderful

08:22

i can see it in their eyes they may even

08:26

that’s a really good point and when they

08:30

giddy high that makes us now want to

08:33

making the point that we’ve already made

08:36

i was once watching a tv show i can’t

08:38

who even said this but there was a guy

08:40

who said i just want to reiterate and

08:42

the other guy said you don’t need to

08:44

reiterate it you’ve already said it

08:46

and we often feel the need to reiterate

08:48

things that we have said over and over

08:50

again i’ve done this so

08:51

much in my life i cringe when i watch

08:53

myself do it and i have the

08:55

problem of seeing myself do it on video

08:57

in real interviews when you catch

09:00

stop and say i’ve already made the point

09:04

they’re already appreciating it let me

09:07

allow that point to detonate in their

09:09

mind and do the work for me

09:11

if they want to ask me another question

09:15

look when we’re talking about these

09:16

things we’re talking about effectiveness

09:18

impact persuasion the ability to stand

09:22

to have a distinct unique and powerful

09:24

voice to make an impression on people

09:28

i have truly found these these tools

09:31

to be some of the most useful in my life

09:36

at age 11 when i was reading how to win

09:38

friends and influence people

09:39

but i’ve never stopped learning it keeps

09:43

every new person i speak to i hang

09:45

around with some really amazing

09:47

successful people who continue

09:49

to teach me and i think oh my god i’m

09:51

i’m just getting started

09:53

it never ends and anytime someone says

09:56

oh i i know all of that stuff i think

09:58

you must be playing a different game to

10:00

i i don’t know what your understanding

10:02

of this area is but for me the learning

10:04

never stops in this area i’m

10:06

always focused on how to be more

10:10

because it affects everything from my

10:12

business to my relationships to the new

10:15

opportunities that i bring in

10:17

all of it if this is an area that you

10:21

as interested in as i am and i mean

10:24

as i am privately because it’s not

10:26

something i talk about every week in my

10:28

videos but it’s something that i am

10:30

massively invested in i have something i

10:33

know you’re really going to love

10:34

what i’m about to show you as a free

10:36

training this is going to be my gift to

10:39

is from an event that i got invited to

10:41

that was a closed-door event for a group

10:43

influencers and entrepreneurs who are

10:45

all looking to improve their impact out

10:48

there build their audiences build their

10:50

become more known and i sat with them

10:53

and i gave them some of my secrets that

10:55

i’ve learned over the years

10:56

i’ve pulled 18 minutes of this into a

11:00

that you get to watch right now for free

11:03

and you know when i say something is

11:04

free it actually has value like this

11:06

free video you’re watching right now

11:08

it has massive value so if you want more

11:12

of that come with me and watch this

11:14

if you’re someone who just wants more

11:16

impact in your own personal life

11:18

if you’re a business leader a ceo or if

11:21

you’re someone who has interest in

11:22

building a personal brand

11:24

this video is an incredibly valuable

11:28

and ignore the production value it’s not

11:30

great but that’s because it was never

11:32

intended to be shown to the public you

11:34

a peek into something that was only

11:37

reserved for a handful of people

11:39

i’ll leave a link here check it out and

11:41

i’ll see you in the free training oh

11:43

the only favor i ask is that when you

11:44

get there you leave me a comment i want

People Skills

This post was previously published on YouTube.


Photo credit: Screenshot from video

Similar Posts

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *