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Struggling With Reading
Have you noticed that your child is struggling with reading?
In this episode of From our Family to Yours, hear from community member Holli. Holli tells us the steps she took after noticing a problem, including observing her son’s behavior.
After talking it over with him to figure out the best solution, Holli figured out that it was more than just a focus issue.
Our Understood expert discusses the steps you can take when you notice your child struggling academically.
Transcript provided by YouTube:
Are you noticing something going on with your child?
Are they struggling with reading or with writing?
Welcome to “From our family to yours”,
where we share relatable stories and helpful advice
from community members like you.
Hi, I’m Gail, from the Understood team.
This week’s story revolves around observing, noticing,
when your child is struggling with school work.
It comes from Holli in Lincroft, New Jersey.
Let’s see what Holli says.
“I first noticed a difference in my child,
“when his teachers recommended we hold him back,
“because he wasn’t grasping anything
“that had to do with reading.
“It brings tears to my eyes, just remembering those days,
“and feeling so lost, hopeless, and confused.
“Every teacher he had, up until the end of third grade,
“would hold conferences with us
“and literally be scratching their heads,
“looking at us perplexed.
“I know that, because I had seen it over and over again.
“They would all say,” Colt is such a smart kid,
“but there’s something going on
“that I can’t put my finger on.”
“He began shutting down,
“avoiding anything that had to do with reading or writing.
“He became masterful at utilizing his cute freckles
“and his charm to get out of all things reading.
“I could see the defeat taking over.
“He would come home almost every day in tears,
“because he hated school.
“I felt helpless and had no idea where to even start
“to try to figure out what was going on.
“I knew he was a smart kid,
“and his personality could move mountains
“because he had a heart of gold.
“But I also knew he had difficulties with learning,
“once I realized he could not even read a sentence
“We tried tutor after tutor, and nothing was helping.
“To say it broke our hearts would be an understatement.”
Thanks for sharing, Holli.
It’s not easy to see your child struggle
in school or with any other skill.
and your child’s teacher managed to stay connected,
to try to find out what might be going on.
Teachers don’t always have the answers,
but they’re great support system,
and resources to help you find out what’s going on.
and see what happened next for Holli and her child.
“I began to observe Colt’s behavior
“on a few different occasions.
“Mostly when we would try and read at night time.
“It was painful to witness as he had his finger
“on each word, trying with all he had to read it.
“It would honestly take a half hour
“to get through two sentences.
“Then the frustration would set in, followed by tears.
“By that time we would set the book down
“and always, “try again tomorrow.”
“Initially, I thought he just couldn’t
“understand the material.
“But when we tried audiobooks,
“we began to see how happy Colt was.
“He actually loved books.
“He would sit down and play with his Legos while listening.
“He was like a different kid
“when the pressure of reading was taken off his shoulders.
“We soon came to realize how much he loved mystery books,
“as long as they were audio, of course.”
What a great story to end with!
The more that you can notice
how your child is struggling,
you can start understanding better,
you can share that information with your child’s teacher,
and you can start coming up with solutions on your own
that may help your child read and enjoy what he’s reading.
Have you noticed any changes in your child’s behavior?
Or have you noticed your child struggling with reading,
or writing or any other skill?
Take a look at our helpful step-by-step tool,
Take N.O.T.E., in the link below.
Take N.O.T.E. stands for Notice, Observe, Talk, and Engage.
And this tool can help you start to get answers
about the behaviors you’re seeing.
Remember, you’re not alone.
Until next time, this is “From our family to yours”,
This post was previously published on Youtube
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